Trans 101

Jun. 5th, 2009 10:53 am
[personal profile] floit63 posting in [community profile] ftm
I'm speaking at DC Trans Pride tomorrow. I don't do this often just because [a] I'm so different from most transguys that I don't feel comfortable speaking for everyone and [b] very few people on this coast know I'm trans. They were having trouble finding a guy though and I know one of the women organizing everything so I said I'd do it.

Since this is a Trans 101 panel designed for trans and non-transpeople alike, does anyone have any suggestions for things they'd like brought up? I already know what I want to get across, but since I'm theoretically speaking for all of you I thought I'd ask what you'd like.

Oh, and if anyone's going, feel free to introduce yourself. I won't have *too* much time afterwards (moving to a new apartment), but I'm always up for meeting new people.

the panel, my opinion

Date: 2009-06-06 01:44 am (UTC)
devon: from LARP attack - see 08jul2005 on my LJ (sheppard approved)
From: [personal profile] devon
The best message that I've seen at a Trans 101 panel is that politeness goes a long way. When approaching anyone who is different, one must be polite. If you're not sure how to address a trans person, ask politely and respect the answer you get. Do not ask about genitals or surgery at all because that's not polite. If you think something is too private to be a polite topic of discussion, it probably is. Don't make a big scene if someone else uses the wrong pronouns - big scenes are not polite. Don't speculate in gossip because that's not polite.

Hopefully the 101 panel will answer a bunch of nuts-and-bolts questions about how most people accomplish their physical and social transition. Emphasize that not everyone follows the same path, and that people should not assume that the trans person they know has done it a certain way - why? It's not polite. Panels and the internet are the best way for people who have a lot of questions to learn about the process - encourage them to use the internet before they start grilling their new trans friend about trans issues.

Good luck with the panel - I hope it goes fantastically! :D
Devon, FtMtF


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