My intro

Apr. 15th, 2009 02:08 pm
floit63: (18)
[personal profile] floit63 posting in [community profile] ftm
I'll probably end up introducing myself again after the site goes to open beta and there are a few more members, but I figured the couple of you who've joined already should get a chance to know who's running the comm.

My name is Nicky, I'm a 23 year old cosmetology student and I'm from San Francisco, CA (though I currently live in Washington, DC). I came out as trans when I was just past 20, started T about six months after that, and have been living mostly stealth for the past two years.

I'm slightly different from most guys in that I had a pretty typical childhood for a young gay boy. I was lucky enough to live in an amazing area that allowed me to act and dress however I wanted so I had almost the exact same experiences as my non-trans friends. The only times I was different were when they split up boys and girls during sex ed in grade 6 and a short-lived "art chick" phase during my senior year of high school.

My partner is also trans, though that was entirely accidental. I always assumed I couldn't find another transguy I'd be willing to date because ties to gay male culture and history are very important to me (that whole growing up a de-facto gay boy in San Francisco thing) and every transman I'd met at that point was more interested in current queer culture or lesbian culture. Then I met my partner and life's been pretty good since.

I'd like this community to become a resource for transmen, allies, and those who are questioning. Because not everyone is a gender studies major I'd like to ask that we not attack people for a simple mistake. We all started off on this without knowing much (if anything), I think it's important to give people a chance to learn rather than shouting at them to look everything up themselves.

This means that I'm not going to be the language gestapo. If you're offended by something someone has said go ahead and tell them POLITELY. Be prepared to back up your feelings, not everyone agrees with what is offensive and what isn't (see: queer). I'm not going to ban people for debating (lord knows I do it), but I will give out warnings for open attacks. Three warnings and you're gone, I don't have the patience to deal with people who can't argue civilly.

Please, no genderqueer issues in here. I know that a lot of times they overlap, but I'd like this community to maintain a more narrow focus. [community profile] polygender seems to be the genderqueer resource on DW and I've opened up [community profile] transgender for all people on the trans* spectrum.

By the same token, this is an ALL AGES community so keep the explicit stuff on [community profile] ftm_adult. I don't want this community to be screened, especially not when the youngest of us are often the ones who need the most support.

Really I'm pretty laid back. I prefer everyone act like adults simply because it means I don't have to be the bad guy, I hate being the bad guy. Play nice, stay on topic, and we'll all get along just fine.

comm rules

Date: 2009-05-04 06:39 pm (UTC)
devon: from LARP attack - see 08jul2005 on my LJ (Default)
From: [personal profile] devon
Could you please put some of this into the community profile? I was not aware that this community does not accept those who ID as both ftm and genderqueer, and it's not clear in the profile. This is not a request for you to change your rules - it is a request for you to make them easily accessible. Thanks.

Re: comm rules

Date: 2009-05-04 07:04 pm (UTC)
devon: from LARP attack - see 08jul2005 on my LJ (Default)
From: [personal profile] devon
The guys over at [community profile] f2m think you are specifically excluding genderqueers. I do not want to start a flame war, by any means. I just think it would be cool if you tweaked the comm profile. Thanks.


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