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ftmI'll probably end up introducing myself again after the site goes to open beta and there are a few more members, but I figured the couple of you who've joined already should get a chance to know who's running the comm.
My name is Nicky, I'm a 23 year old cosmetology student and I'm from San Francisco, CA (though I currently live in Washington, DC). I came out as trans when I was just past 20, started T about six months after that, and have been living mostly stealth for the past two years.
I'm slightly different from most guys in that I had a pretty typical childhood for a young gay boy. I was lucky enough to live in an amazing area that allowed me to act and dress however I wanted so I had almost the exact same experiences as my non-trans friends. The only times I was different were when they split up boys and girls during sex ed in grade 6 and a short-lived "art chick" phase during my senior year of high school.
My partner is also trans, though that was entirely accidental. I always assumed I couldn't find another transguy I'd be willing to date because ties to gay male culture and history are very important to me (that whole growing up a de-facto gay boy in San Francisco thing) and every transman I'd met at that point was more interested in current queer culture or lesbian culture. Then I met my partner and life's been pretty good since.
I'd like this community to become a resource for transmen, allies, and those who are questioning. Because not everyone is a gender studies major I'd like to ask that we not attack people for a simple mistake. We all started off on this without knowing much (if anything), I think it's important to give people a chance to learn rather than shouting at them to look everything up themselves.
This means that I'm not going to be the language gestapo. If you're offended by something someone has said go ahead and tell them POLITELY. Be prepared to back up your feelings, not everyone agrees with what is offensive and what isn't (see: queer). I'm not going to ban people for debating (lord knows I do it), but I will give out warnings for open attacks. Three warnings and you're gone, I don't have the patience to deal with people who can't argue civilly.
Please, no genderqueer issues in here. I know that a lot of times they overlap, but I'd like this community to maintain a more narrow focus.polygender seems to be the genderqueer resource on DW and I've opened up transgender for all people on the trans* spectrum.
By the same token, this is an ALL AGES community so keep the explicit stuff onftm_adult. I don't want this community to be screened, especially not when the youngest of us are often the ones who need the most support.
Really I'm pretty laid back. I prefer everyone act like adults simply because it means I don't have to be the bad guy, I hate being the bad guy. Play nice, stay on topic, and we'll all get along just fine.
My name is Nicky, I'm a 23 year old cosmetology student and I'm from San Francisco, CA (though I currently live in Washington, DC). I came out as trans when I was just past 20, started T about six months after that, and have been living mostly stealth for the past two years.
I'm slightly different from most guys in that I had a pretty typical childhood for a young gay boy. I was lucky enough to live in an amazing area that allowed me to act and dress however I wanted so I had almost the exact same experiences as my non-trans friends. The only times I was different were when they split up boys and girls during sex ed in grade 6 and a short-lived "art chick" phase during my senior year of high school.
My partner is also trans, though that was entirely accidental. I always assumed I couldn't find another transguy I'd be willing to date because ties to gay male culture and history are very important to me (that whole growing up a de-facto gay boy in San Francisco thing) and every transman I'd met at that point was more interested in current queer culture or lesbian culture. Then I met my partner and life's been pretty good since.
I'd like this community to become a resource for transmen, allies, and those who are questioning. Because not everyone is a gender studies major I'd like to ask that we not attack people for a simple mistake. We all started off on this without knowing much (if anything), I think it's important to give people a chance to learn rather than shouting at them to look everything up themselves.
This means that I'm not going to be the language gestapo. If you're offended by something someone has said go ahead and tell them POLITELY. Be prepared to back up your feelings, not everyone agrees with what is offensive and what isn't (see: queer). I'm not going to ban people for debating (lord knows I do it), but I will give out warnings for open attacks. Three warnings and you're gone, I don't have the patience to deal with people who can't argue civilly.
Please, no genderqueer issues in here. I know that a lot of times they overlap, but I'd like this community to maintain a more narrow focus.
polygender seems to be the genderqueer resource on DW and I've opened up transgender for all people on the trans* spectrum.By the same token, this is an ALL AGES community so keep the explicit stuff on
ftm_adult. I don't want this community to be screened, especially not when the youngest of us are often the ones who need the most support.Really I'm pretty laid back. I prefer everyone act like adults simply because it means I don't have to be the bad guy, I hate being the bad guy. Play nice, stay on topic, and we'll all get along just fine.
comm rules
Date: 2009-05-04 06:39 pm (UTC)Re: comm rules
Date: 2009-05-04 06:48 pm (UTC)For instance, in other communities there are often questions about how to look more androgynous. That's great and I'm all for non-binary gender expression (hell, I'm trying to figure out if I could get away with wearing skirts this summer), but I'd prefer if the topics on here leaned more towards the ftm side of things than the genderqueer side.
How to wear nailpolish while still being read as male? Great, awesome. How long to be on T without being read as male? Probably a bit more suited for another place.
Re: comm rules
Date: 2009-05-04 07:04 pm (UTC)Re: comm rules
Date: 2009-05-04 07:05 pm (UTC)