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I'm not out as trans to anyone in my current city except my partner. Theoretically there are...five or six other people who know, but I never see them so it's kind of a moot point. However, at school my circle of friends default to me when they have a trans related question because most of them know my partner is trans. I don't have any problems with this, answering questions was never part of the reason I chose not to disclose.

What is amusing to me is that while my close friends ask me trans questions, everyone who doesn't know me will ask one of them. So when the Chaz Bono news broke everyone ran to one of my friends rather than me. Up until the past two or three years I was the go-to guy for all things trans related in my area (particularly when it came to transmen), now I'm not even in the top ten. I actually prefer it this way because it means I get to skip the Trans 101 stuff and talk about more important things, like why gay men really need to stop using "tranny" as the new catch-all.

It does take some adjusting to though. I instinctively start to answer questions that haven't been yet asked simply out of habit. Has anyone experienced anything similar to this as they've gotten further along in transition? Any pointers on how to learn to keep my big mouth shut? The ADHD really doesn't help, but I've managed to learn to think before I speak in most other cases.

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=104452266&sc=fb&cc=fp

Albert D.J. Cashier was the shortest soldier in the 95th Illinois Infantry. In one of the few existing photographs of Cashier during the Civil War, you can faintly detect the outline of breasts under his uniform.

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Cashier/Hodgers is dead so we'll never know if s/he identified more towards the male end or just liked the freedom and cash that came with living as a man, but it's still pretty interesting.

I was diagnosed with epilepsy about 4 years ago. Up until the past six months I'd only had absence seizures (basically looks like I'm spacing out) and the occasional febrile seizure, but recently I've been having more and more grand mal seizures (the kind most people are familiar with). I've noticed that these tend to come on when I forget to do my T shot for more than about a week. Has anyone else experienced this correlation?

It's not an automatic thing, I won't just have one because my shot was due last Tuesday. However, I have noticed that the times when I've been most regular about my shot have also been the times when I've not had a single grand mal while the times when I have had them have all been during a missed shot week. I realise the simple way to test this is to just do the damned shot, but I have pretty bad needle anxiety so quite a bit of the time I'll sit down, prick myself, and chicken out before I've even hit subcutaneous tissue.

Just wanted to alert you all to the new layout on here (here being ftm). It's basic and completely NOT done by me (I'm not that talented). It's Core2 so it may break at some point, but for now it's better than the default. If anyone happens to have CSS skills and wants to give designing something custom a shot feel free. I haven't designed layouts for LJ since I was about 13 so I can guarantee it'll be better than what I'd do =)

I'll probably end up introducing myself again after the site goes to open beta and there are a few more members, but I figured the couple of you who've joined already should get a chance to know who's running the comm.

My name is Nicky, I'm a 23 year old cosmetology student and I'm from San Francisco, CA (though I currently live in Washington, DC). I came out as trans when I was just past 20, started T about six months after that, and have been living mostly stealth for the past two years.

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I'd like this community to become a resource for transmen, allies, and those who are questioning. Because not everyone is a gender studies major I'd like to ask that we not attack people for a simple mistake. We all started off on this without knowing much (if anything), I think it's important to give people a chance to learn rather than shouting at them to look everything up themselves.

This means that I'm not going to be the language gestapo. If you're offended by something someone has said go ahead and tell them POLITELY. Be prepared to back up your feelings, not everyone agrees with what is offensive and what isn't (see: queer). I'm not going to ban people for debating (lord knows I do it), but I will give out warnings for open attacks. Three warnings and you're gone, I don't have the patience to deal with people who can't argue civilly.

Please, no genderqueer issues in here. I know that a lot of times they overlap, but I'd like this community to maintain a more narrow focus. polygender seems to be the genderqueer resource on DW and I've opened up transgender for all people on the trans* spectrum.

By the same token, this is an ALL AGES community so keep the explicit stuff on ftm_adult. I don't want this community to be screened, especially not when the youngest of us are often the ones who need the most support.

Really I'm pretty laid back. I prefer everyone act like adults simply because it means I don't have to be the bad guy, I hate being the bad guy. Play nice, stay on topic, and we'll all get along just fine.